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Female orgasms come in many varieties—clitoral, vaginal, anal, g-spot—you can even combine a few types of stimulation for a more intense experience. For many, however, having a squirting orgasm is on the top of their sexual bucket list.
Squirting orgasms are orgasms from a vagina owner that involve the ejaculation of fluid. The amount of fluid produced varies from person to person, from a tiny bit to a river. OK, maybe not quite that much. Some women describe squirting orgasms as a more intense orgasm, while others can't tell the difference.
Somewhere between 10% and 70% of vagina owners experience squirting orgasms. Estimating is difficult because some people don't even know it's happening. If you've never had one and want to, you likely have questions. If you're wondering how squirting orgasms feel, where the ejaculate comes from (is it pee?), and how to make squirting more likely, read on for all the details.
What is a squirting orgasm?
The first time a vagina owner experiences squirting, it can take them by surprise. One moment you're riding a delicious wave of orgasm, and the next, fluid gushes from your body. A squirting orgasm occurs when the skene's gland (sometimes called the female prostate) is stimulated during sex. The skene's gland contains similar tissue to the prostate in cis males. It's near the urethral sponge and the g-spot.
Squirting orgasms often happen with lots of foreplay, sex, or masturbation involving the clitoris or g-spot (or both). Many women find it easier to have squirting orgasms if they are very relaxed.
Female ejaculate varies from clear to white, or even grayish, much like your typical vaginal secretions. The lack of color can make identifying the difference between ejaculate and regular vaginal lubrication difficult. The fluid released during squirting orgasms is typically odorless or has a slightly sweet smell, similar to vaginal secretions.
Is female ejaculation just pee?
Some women report feeling like they're going to pee right before a squirting orgasm. This causes a lot of discussion about what female ejaculate is. Here are the facts.
Female ejaculate can trickle from the urethra, or come as a rush of liquid. Scientists discovered ejaculate from some women is chemically similar to urine, and originates in the bladder, but that isn't the whole story.
Studies found varying amounts of a substance called PSA, or prostate-specific antigen, in female ejaculate. Women don't have a prostate, but the substance is related to the PSA in men's semen. In women, PSA protects the urethra from bacteria.
Some vagina owners worry about what their partner(s) will think about squirting. They worry they may be grossed out. There’s nothing gross about female ejaculate (or ejaculate in general), though! It's a natural bodily function. If squirting is something you want to explore, you don't need your partner's permission.
Why is female ejaculation such a big deal?
Some sexual circles have almost fetishized female ejaculation. “Making” a woman have a squirting orgasm is seen as a cause for celebration. You can find an orgasm compilation of porn stars who squirt on just about every porn video site.
This type of fetishization extends to threesomes, lesbian sex, creampies, and more. While this is sexy for some people, we're not about an intense focus on any one sexual act when it removes the focus of pleasure from the vagina owners involved in the experience. Sex doesn’t need to be performative! We’re all about focusing on pleasure, whether or not that ends in any type of orgasm.
Squirting orgasms don’t need to be a big deal. Female ejaculation isn't something that our partners can "make" us do, nor is it particularly rare. It's just a thing that happens sometimes during sexual experiences involving vaginas. That's it. Let's remove the pressure and expectation and focus on exploring bodies. If you want to be a squirter, your best bet is to relax and focus on pleasure instead of any particular goal.
The g-spot is the most direct route to female ejaculation
Like anything sexual, you can't really make yourself squirt, but you can set the right environment and use the right tools to make it more likely. Start by creating a relaxing atmosphere (yes, even for masturbation).
A bath or shower may relax you, and ensuring your environment smells good can increase your arousal. Covering your bed (or the shag rug in front of your fireplace) with a waterproof blanket or towels will help ease your concerns about any potential mess.
When you're ready to explore squirting orgasms solo or with a partner, g-spot stimulation is vital. Remember, the skene's gland and urethral sponge are both involved in female ejaculation. These areas are located right next to the g-spot, so stimulating the g-spot will often stimulate these areas as well.
The g-spot is located along the front side of the vaginal wall a few inches in. Rubbing the g-spot with your fingers using a come-here motion can make it swell. When the g-spot begins to swell you are moving toward an orgasm with the potential for squirting.
Combine erogenous zones for squirting orgasms
We're all for stimulating multiple erogenous zones for more pleasure. Some women say that combining g-spot stimulation with clitoral stimulation intensifies their squirting orgasm even more. Sex toys designed to stimulate your g-spot and clitoris simultaneously may help you achieve squirting orgasm during masturbation or partnered sex. Look for curved dildos or vibrators designed to rub against your g-spot like Arc from Dame.
You may like a toy with a remote control so you and your partner(s) can be hands-free to stimulate your other erogenous zones. A hands-free option also allows you to play around with positions during masturbation so you can find the one that feels the most intense.
Lube is necessary for comfort and improved sensation whether you're using toys, fingers, or a penis to achieve orgasm. Use a water-based variety that's safe for toys and condoms to reduce friction and increase your pleasure.
Some women report feeling like they have to pee right before squirting because of the intense pressure against the urethral sponge. If you feel that sensation, take a deep breath and keep going! You may experience a trickle of fluid or gushing—vagina owners report both.
Once you've had a squirting orgasm the first time, it's easier to have multiple squirting orgasms because you'll learn just what your body needs to get there.
What if I can't have a squirting orgasm?
OK, you set the scene, used all the right toys, and even got your partner to do that come here motion. It felt great, you had an orgasm (or several), but you didn't squirt. What gives?
It's important to remember that while all vulva owners have the right equipment for a squirting orgasm, it doesn't mean everyone will have one (or enjoy them). Your sex life will not suffer if you never have a squirting orgasm. It's no different than anal sex or BDSM—we all have different preferences and bodily responses.
If an intense squirting orgasm is on your sexual bucket list, you can always try again. Masturbation is good for you! Consider playing around with edging. With edging you bring yourself close to orgasm, then back off over and over again. For some vagina owners, edging is the most direct route to a squirting orgasm.
When you're ready to give squirting orgasms another try, let a narrator guide you through a self-touch session focused on edging, or trying a session on mixing it up. Put in your headphones in for the best experience, then grab your vibrator, relax, and see what happens.