4 genderless threesome positions to deliver pleasure

For some people, a threesome is a sexual bucket-list item, and for others, group sex is just a typical fun Friday night. Whether a threesome is something you're hoping to check off your list or something you enjoy often, it's vital to find threesome positions where no one feels left out.

A ménage à trois is just sex between three people. Threesomes can occur in any combination of genders and sexual orientations (or penises and vaginas). Like with coupled sex, a threesome can involve oral sex, digital stimulation, toys, and penetrative sex. With a threeway, there’s just extra hands, legs, and erogenous zones to enjoy, which means you can get even more creative with threesome positions.

Whether a threesome is a sexual fantasy you're hoping to experience or a regular part of your sex life, there’s always room to try something new. Read on for some creative threesome positions, as well as tips for making your next (or first) threesome inclusive and exciting for everyone involved.

Important considerations before your threesome

Sometimes a couple decides to bring in a third person to enjoy a threesome. If you and a partner are considering inviting a third for your first threeway, it's crucial to be mindful of a few things.

• This new person is a whole person with needs and feelings, not just a vessel for your mutual enjoyment.

• Clear communication about boundaries for the couple and the third partner is vital (consider making a menu of what's on the table, including some threesome positions for your play session!).

• Sex often involves an emotional component, even for a third person joining you and your regular partner. Learn how to provide aftercare.

• Consider what happens after the threesome. Is the third partner sleeping over? Is there a plan in place to see them home? Who's making pancakes?

Clear communication and consent

If threesomes are a regular part of your life, clear communication about boundaries, expectations, and sexual preferences will ensure everyone has a good time. Some of these questions may feel awkward, but discussing them in advance ensures that everyone can relax and enjoy threesome positions that meet everyone's needs during the event. Some questions to consider include:

• How does each participant feel about vaginal and anal penetration? What about double penetration?

• Which partners enjoy receiving or giving oral sex?

• What's everyone's STI status?

• What sorts of protection will everyone use?

• Is anyone comfortable just watching for periods or does everyone want to be actively involved?

• Will you involve sex toys? What types? What are the guidelines for cleaning them when switching partners?

Types of threesomes

Often threesomes are discussed as MFF, MMF, etc. At Dipsea, we strive for inclusivity and avoid speaking of any particular gender when it comes to threesomes. Instead, let's focus on everyone getting what they need (and want) out of the experience. Use these types of threesomes to help guide your discussion of preferences and to help you pick the best threesome positions for your group to enjoy.

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in the dark

Her + Her + Him

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playing the field

Her + Her + her

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Tag-team threeways

The type of threeway you're involved in will determine some of the positions you get to explore. Some people enjoy a tag-team style threesome where two people are engaged in play while the third acts as a voyeur and watches. Tag-team works well when one or more participants are straight and not interested in exploring play with another person. Tag-team threesomes are one of the only styles where missionary position makes sense. If watching is your thing, a tag-team threesome would probably work well for you.

Taking turns

Another type of threesome involves one person being the center of attention for some time (and then switching, so another participant is the receiver). This works wonderfully for first-time threesomes. If everyone you're playing with prefers to be involved, it's best to find positions that allow everyone's hands, mouths, and genitals to get in on the fun.

All hands on deck

Some people who enjoy threesomes love a sex pile where everyone is involved in the action from start to finish (save for an occasional water break). Whether the participants have a vulva or penis, the goal is to ensure the threesome positions you choose allow everyone to receive pleasure throughout the experience.

Sometimes, simply because of positioning, it's difficult for everyone in a threesome to have their erogenous zones stimulated at all times. For this reason, it's essential to view giving pleasure to your partners as a source of pleasure, or include sex toys in the mix so you can stay revved up along with everyone else when it's your turn to give.

Best threesome positions

Alright, so you've found your partners for the evening (or afternoon, or morning), and you all agree a threeway is on the menu. Having some idea of what positions you'd like to try ahead of time can help you avoid the awkward moments where everyone is excited, but your limbs get twisted together, and you tumble off the side of the bed in a sexy form of Twister. These threesome positions will help you navigate your erotic encounter with ease.

Daisy chain

A daisy chain is a chain made of flowers where each stem is tied just beneath the bloom of the next flower. Just kidding, you're not here for a lesson in floral arranging! A daisy chain is a threesome position where each person performs oral on the person in front of them. If you're involved in a threesome with three vagina owners, one might lay on their back, another would be on their knees in between the first person's legs, and the third could be under or behind the second.

Double cowgirl (cowperson)

For this threesome position, one participant lays on their back. The other two straddle them, with one enjoying a face-sitting episode and the other straddling the genitals of the horizontal person. The two people on top in the cowgirl position can up the sexy factor by facing each other for intimate eye contact. They'll also have access to tons of erogenous zones and enjoy a makeout session.

If a penis owner is in the mix, they can lay down, and vulva owners can enjoy penetration and oral. If everyone involved has a vulva, it's a great position to try a strap-on dildo (don't forget the lube!) or enjoy some scissoring.

Doggy train

A doggy train is a classic threesome position with everyone in a doggy-style position with one person as the caboose. Depending on which body parts your partners have, this position can involve vaginal or anal penetration, oral sex, or rimming in the doggy position.

Eiffel Tower

The Eiffel Tower is a threesome position where all three partners give and receive pleasure simultaneously. One partner is on all fours (there's a lot of doggy style involved in threeways!) while one person penetrates from behind using a penis, a strap on, or fingers. The third person kneels in front and receives oral sex or digital play from the partner who is bent over.

You don't have to have a threesome to enjoy the fantasy

For many people, a threesome fantasy is just that—something they enjoy thinking about during masturbation or partnered sex but don't actually want to experience. There's no shame in either fantasizing about or having a threesome (or several).

What's important is that every partner's needs matter and that you all discuss consent and safety. Then you just get to relax and experiment with a few positions (or all of them). If you're interested in hearing how an actual threesome works to inspire you and your partners, or get you revved up during a solo sesh, check out these stories.